My husband, whom I refer to often as ‘the husband’, or ‘the Man’, is the HEAD of my home. There cannot be two in a household. One has to be the head and the one with the final say so. He is it in our house. If I ever said, “Honey, I want you to do, ‘WHATEVER IT WAS’, and he did immediately”, I would go look on the front door to make sure I had not gone in the wrong ‘dad-gum’ house.
Yes, ‘dad-gum’ is a southern word, which stands for a lesser word like DAMN, OKAY?
Case in point, I want to sell our Log Cabin and the Shop (which the shop was HIS idea-by the way) with us moving back to the property we still own on the Highway going out of town toward Cartersville. We lived in that house for six years, before we moved into this Log Cabin seven years ago. He thought we would sell that property and pay off all we owed. That was just as the financial crisis hit; housing prices fell out the bottom, the war in Iran started, gas prices soared, and it was all we could do to keep jobs going. Not ONE person would consider buying anything. Nothing has changed on that score, so far.
We do have a couple living in the three bedroom, two full baths, eighteen hundred square foot house, on one level with a full front porch and a large back porch on two acres, with a barn and a storage building. They have three children. I know they are taking care of our home because she takes great care and she is cleaner than I am. That is not the problem. They want to buy the property, but they don’t make enough money. He has had a bad car wreck a couple of months ago and cannot work. I don’t think he will EVER be able to go back to work. If he gets an insurance claim settled (in years to come) maybe he could afford to buy it. Who knows!!
If Obama gets elected on Tuesday, we are sunk. We will have to close the doors on ‘the husband’s’ business. ‘The Man’ is an electrical substation maintenance repair Contractor, but with regulations, taxes, price of diesel, workman’s compensation, insurance, Obama-care, and the list goes on…we cannot afford to stay in business. We have to get out of debt!! I don’t want to lose everything!! We are going to lose it all, if we don’t sell soon!
Oh and the story of how we got the Log Cabin is a story for a couple of bottles of wine and a cool night around a bonfire!! But I will keep it short over your cup of hot chocolate!!
The first time I met ‘the man’ he told me he had always dreamed of one day living in a log cabin. He daydreamed with me for years of being able to build a log cabin. Every time we thought we would be close to getting on solid ground for that cabin, the rug would slip. In 2005 he had been renting the shop from the owner of the log cabin. When the owner wanted to sell the shop to ‘the man’, he made him an offer to sell him the Log Cabin and the Shop.
I remember going to see the house and thinking it was just too small. We didn’t think any more about it, because it just wasn’t going to work.
April 1, 2005 ‘the man’ drove all the way to Alabama to my sister’s, where I was visiting, to ask me face to face, if I would reconsider. The owner had made him and offer that was just too good to pass up! He was asking only $265,000 for the shop, house and five acres of land. The house had a double car garage, an in-ground pool, and the shop was all he would need for his business. This was his dream, to own a LOG CABIN.
I saw the look on his face, and how could I say NO to those eyes? It didn’t make any difference to him that we would be moving into a house that had less than 1300 square feet when we had been living in a house with over eighteen hundred square feet, a storage building and a barn.
He drove back to Georgia on a cloud because I told him YES, we could accept it, if it meant that much to him.
Do you remember the movie “The Money Pit”? Well friends and neighbors this is what we moved into without a doubt!! Almost every floor had to be removed down to the floor joist because of water damages. Tile floors had to be removed and kitchen cabinets had to be replaced due to water damage. I could tell you in a novel of details all the things we had to do to make this house liveable, but it is now. It is beautiful!! A few things we had to do was to replace windows, put in a claw-foot tub, walk-in pantry, took in old porch and made a dining room. We had to put in a new stair system, going upstairs, because when we had it checked, THREE nails was all that held up the entire staircase. OMG!! That is just to start.
Now, we owe so much, because we had to borrow against the equity on this place so many times to keep the doors to the business open. When we stopped charging what we don’t have, and cut up all our credit cards, we started paying off our credit cards. All of his are paid off. Mine are NOT! His truck is paid off. My car is NOT! Do you get the drift?
I want to be out of debt!! I want to move back out to the other house and fix it up! ‘The man’ keeps saying he doesn’t think we could ever get out of this place what we would have to get for it to be worth what we need to make it worth our while to move. We could get more for this than any other place!! Sell the shop (he had a buyer and never called them) if the renter can’t buy it. (He hasn’t even discussed it with him yet!) Mercy, don’t wait until it’s too late and we start losing it all……..for the love of God!! FRUSTRATING is not the word!!!
Being a believer helps me! I am completely leaving this one in the hands of God. Whichever HE wants for us is exactly what I am going to have without worry or fret! There is not one thing I can do about it anyway!! ‘The Man’ is the Head of My Home and God is the head of him.